Nobody ever asks a father how he manages to combine marriage and a career.

So Marissa Mayer landed the job as CEO of Yahoo.  And she is pregnant.  Which some says just begs the question--how can she do both?

It also leads to the question "Would we be saying the same thing if this was Martin Mayer?"  No, I don't know him--do you?  He's just a made up name to make the point--if the new CEO was a man with a wife due in October, would anybody care?

I think not because it is assumed that men do not have the child our household responsibilities that women do. 

(Note to self. . .use your words for good here, not to grumble and complain).

Smiling brightly and continuining. . .

I do believe that men CAN have it all, mainly because for so long they have.  Certainly they have sacrificed some time with their families in order to be big CEOs.  But the time they have sacrificed pale in comparison to what a mother must give up.  I simply cannot see it any other way.  In my world, women are the primary caregivers for their families.  Women are, more often than not, the ones that take time away from work to be with the children.  As the family grows, women are the ones that take time off work to get kids to doctor appointments or take part in assemblies at school.  Not men.  Women are the ones who attend to the needs of those children after school and during the night.  Those demands are what end up putting limits on women in the professional world.  Men do not do those things (nor do they need time off to recover from child birth, nor do they need time for feeding babies directly like women do).

It seems to me that women face far greater challenges than men do in "having it all."  Of course though, I guess that depends on how you define "having it all."